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GRIEF: HEALING YOUR GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME: Angel to-do list
Hello Beautiful Person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week is project based. Now if you are newly grieving, and have just recently lost a loved one, this might be a healthy seed to plant and stuff to start to think about. If you have been on your grief journey for awhile, this may be the perfect project for you to start to help yourself feel empowered and a little bit more in control of some of the circumstances in your life.
We are going to make a list of all the things your loved one did for you. Not so much as a gratitude list but more as a to-do list. List the things that they used to do for you. So if it was that they hosted Sunday night dinner or they sewed the costumes for your children for their school plays, whatever those tasks were. I want you to put together a list of tasks that they did. Once you have that list together, I want you to think about the people in your life, whether it is friends, or family, or church community but different people that might be willing to take on just one of those tasks. When we are grieving, part of what is so hard, is that we have these daily reminders of the things that our loved ones used to do for us that are no longer here to play that role for us. One person certainly can’t do that whole to do list but piece by piece, we are able to break apart that list and ask people to honor our loved one in a way by taking on this one specific job.
This is going to be a huge, growing experience for you and it is going to help you enormously. I know being able to ask those people to do things for me was healing for both of us because they loved honoring my loved ones and I needed someone to fill that role for me. Be kind and be good to yourself this week. This is not an easy task or project but it is going to be so helpful, so growing and so good.
I cannot wait to hear in the c0mments down below how this was for you. Please subscribe to my channel and I wish for you a wonderful week. Take Care.
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #15: Heal your grief with food
Hello Beautiful person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week, I want to do a little Part 2 on the gut, except this time I want to focus a little bit more on the foods that you can eat that might be really helpful for your system and to help support your organs as they go through their grieving process. Now I know you might think I’m gonna say get your Ben & Jerry’s and your Doritos but no, I am not. I know that is temporary fix, and I know we all do it, and it’s fine but if you’re really having a tough day and you want to find a way to help support your body, here’s what you can do.
As we have talked about in the past, grief resides in our lungs and our lungs are actually connected to our large intestine in what is called a pair channel. Those two organs are actually a part of the metal element channel. The metal element channel is a grouping that Chinese medicine has put together to help assess different diseases and challenges in our bodies but everything on the metal channel is supported by white food. Think apples or pears or almonds. The other really cool piece is if you think of an almond, which organ does that look like? It actually looks like the lungs and it is what is really helpful for the lungs. A lot of the Chinese suggestions for food as medicine are foods that actually resemble the organs in our body. Lungs is the almond. Walnut is our brain. As a little side note. Eat white for our metal elements- large intestine and lungs.
Our heart is connected to our mind but our heart is actually paired with our small intestine- the other half of our digestive tract and they are a part of the fire channel. Everything red is really supportive of these pieces. Think red grapes, red peppers, red beans. Everything red is really supportive. If maybe you feel a little more heart broken for the day, maybe switch over to white if you find yourself sighing a little more, or if it’s harder to catch your breath or if you just feel like you have a weight on your chest. All of which are totally natural grieving symptoms.
Try it! Try healing yourself with food. See if it’s helpful. Try to watch your sugar for the day and certainly get your probiotic. If you haven’t already, I included the link down below because that will really help you keep your serotonin levels in check and I wish for you a wonderful week. I hope this is really helpful. I can’t wait to hear your comments down below and I’ll see you next week.
Here is the link for my probiotic recommendation: Metagenics – Ultra Flora “> Metagenics Ultra Flora Plus
If you want to learn more about the element channels, check out this cool chart: http://www.yinyanghouse.com/theory/chinese/five_element_acupuncture_theory
Thank you so much Dr. Julie Lung for your amazing support and continual outpouring of knowledge. You are such a blessing to this world. If you live in the peninsula area and are looking for an amazing acupuncturist, check her out www.sunshineacupunture.com
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #14: Heal your gut, heal your grief
Hello Beautiful Person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week, I want to talk to you about your gut. What? Your gut? Grief and your gut? Yes, grief and your gut. You know we have that sick to your stomach feeling and it’s not just emotions. There are actually neurons in our gut that produce neurotransmitters like serotonin which we know is responsible for depression and aggression. So what can we do about it? Well, a really simple and easy way to help fix that is by taking a daily probiotic. It will not only help your body function better, from an intestinal perspective, but emotionally it will help support all that you have going on during this time and trust me, when you are grieving there’s a lot going on and it’s ok. But these videos are all about doing whatever you can do to help support that natural process. So pick up a probiotic. I have a link down below of one that I love and I hope this is really helpful for you. It’s certainly not a pill that is going to take it all away but it is a pill that will help support you in your healing path.
Leave your comments down below, subscribe to my channel and I hope you have a great and healthy week. Take Care!
Here is the link for my probiotic recommendation: Metagenics – Ultra Flora “> Metagenics Ultra Flora Plus
Want the whole scoop? Check out this awesome article from Dr. Mercola that details how the gut and all of its neurons work HERE
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #13: Homeopathy
Hello Beautiful Person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week, I want to talk to you about homeopathy and how it can be used to help heal our grief, and an assortment of other things in our life certainly, but today I want to talk, of course, specifically about our grief and just another way that we can help support our bodies through this difficult time. For those of you who do not know what I am talking about, it is one of these little blue containers you might have seen at your local Whole Foods or natural stores. They are everywhere. They are over the counter. They are safe. They are easy. They are little pellets of energy, if you will, and they are made up of different compounds of natural substances, that if given to a healthy person, will actually create the symptoms of whatever ailment is caused in the sick person. It is a concept of like heals like. For our grief, if you are looking for a solution, you can purchase the Ignatia remedy and the symptoms behind this are more of the lump in the throat and nervous laughter and kind of some of those traditional, physical and emotional symptoms that we sometimes have with our grief.
Let me show you the basics. A little homeopathy 101. It has this cool little cap that comes off and it twists and you can take 5 pellets three times a day and you place them under your tongue. It is very important not to eat or drink or brush your teeth or anything half an hour before and half an hour after. Otherwise, it interacts, not dangerously, it just makes it less effective. It is also very important to note that when you take it off, you put it into your mouth directly and under your tongue and let them dissolve under your tougue. If you are giving them to someone else, it is even more important. Do not touch the pellets, just put it in this cap and put it directly into their mouth. It is energy based so you will then transfer your energy into the pills that then this other person will consume. So, keep it in the cap. Keep the cap on when not in use and I can not wait to hear how your homeopathy helps heal your grief. I hope it is so helpful. It is easy , convenient. You can get it today. If you want to go further with your grief, or it is great for colds and flu, and an assocrtment of things, you can seek out a local homeopathic practitioner in your area and please down below leave your comments, subscribe to my channel and I can not wait to hear how this is for you. I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care.
Link to purchase Iganatia Amara 30 Boiron – Ignatia Amara 30c, 30c, 80 pellets
Link to purchase Ignatia Amara 200 Boiron – Ignatia amara 200CK 80 plts
* Please consult a homeopathic doctor for personalized prescription quantities or follow the directions on the packaging. You are always your own best health advocate. Know what is best for you!
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #12: Happy Angel Birthday Dr. Maya Angelou!
Hello Beautiful Person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week, the world is celebrating a beautiful angel birthday. Happy Angel Birthday Dr. Maya Angelou! I know the concept of an angel birthday can sometimes be hard to embrace when we are sad and grieving but this is an opportunity to give gratitude and celebrate a life well lived. What an amazing woman this woman was for all of us and just take a moment and send up that gratitude and wish her a Happy Angel Birthday! So touching and so beautiful.
One of the quotes that she had talked about the most that was so powerful for me was:
“Anger makes you smaller while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond where you were.” –
I know this is something I struggle with a lot- busy mom, trying to work, trying to do it all and it’s really hard. I try and fail a LOT! I try to keep that anger in check but it’s really hard. So I was really moved by a meditation that my acupuncturist had given me this week and I had to share it with you. It is that we take that anger and it’s not that we scream it out or try to get it out but that we take that anger and we transform it into love and compassion.
We do that first with this meditation. We start with closing our eyes and we think about our own heart and we send love to our heart. When you take a minute or so to do that, draw a circle and then you include your inner family-your nucleus family in that circle and you send love to everyone there. Then you draw another circle and you include your closest friends there and then outside of that circle you put your neighbors and your acquaintance friends and you see where I’m going with this. You draw as many circles as you need of levels that you want until you include the whole world and whole universe. We are all love and we are all here to heal each other.
I can not wait to hear how this meditation was for you. I hope it helps transform your anger into love and compassion and Happy Angel Birthday Dr. Angelou! I hope you have a wonderful week.
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GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #11: Energy Follows attention grief journal
Hello Beautiful Person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week, I want to talk to you about a really beautiful concept that has really started to play itself out in my life. It is that energy follows attention. So what we put our time and attention on really begins to manifest itself in our life and I think this is particularly hard when we are grieving because there are days where we just feel really sad and we just really miss that person and that is OK. I encourage you to spend your day that way. I believe it is incredibly important that you honor where you are at today and that you let your heart feel all of the emotions your heart needs to feel because if we don’t allow our heart to do that, it will not heal the way it needs to heal. So please spend your day feeling that way, however I want you to get a spiral notebook or a journal and I want you to write down how you felt that day and what the effects were of that day. Did something happen? Was it maybe a harder day? Or was it a more challenging day? Then, if the next day, you are able to give just one minute or two minutes of gratitude for what this person brought into your life or think about something great that has happened to someone else, or take flowers to someone else or go walk someone else’s dog. Just spend a few minutes, it doesn’t even have to be all day, just a few minutes, and then write that down in your journal. Then write the effect of what happened that day. Did someone else stop by and bring you flowers? Or did someone give you a call? Did you receive a call from a friend that maybe you haven’t heard from in a long time?
That’s the thing: We attract what we think. This concept is great not just when we lose a loved one, or are grieving the loss of a relationship that hasn’t worked out or a huge life change that is happening in our lives. I think this is a really great life guide. It is fantastic for grief because I feel it can help guide you and it can be a great catalog for you and I think during this time we sometimes need a little push. Honor where you are at but also if you can have a minute or two minutes to shift your thinking , it may prove to provide immeasurable healing.
I wish you great luck with your grief journal this week. I can’t wait to hear down in the comments below how it is going for you and what your cause and effects are and I wish you a wonderful week. Take care!
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #10: Happy Face Meditation
Hello Beautiful person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. This week, I want to share with you one of my most favorite meditations. It is what I like to call my Happy Face Meditation. I hope it will help you get through today. Sometimes when we are grieving, that is the most that we can hope for.
You begin by laying down, or you can do this seated in your chair right here and close your eyes. Picture a vacuum at the top of your head and have that vacuum vacuum out any of the heaviness that is in your heart, or anywhere in your body. If your lungs feel heavy and tired and sad, have it suck out that sadness and anger and any sort of darker, heavier feelings you might have and when you feel like you can vacuum no more and as much darkness and heaviness and sadness can be taken away, send it up. Send it up to God and ask him to take it. Then picture God’s beautiful white light shining down from heaven and filling up from the top of your head, filling up your heart and your lungs and your tummy all the way down to your toes. When you are filled with all of this beautiful white love and light, I then want you to picture all of the cells in your body and all of a sudden I want you to picture a happy face on every single one of them and see how that feels. I bet that instantly you will feel a bit of a perk. I know I do this even in the middle of my day. I don’t even wait until the nighttime. If I am stuck at a stoplight, I will do my happy face meditation. It is great. My daughter does it every night. It has become a fantastic ritual in our house. I hope it is wonderful for you. Have a great week. Please, down below, I can’t wait to hear how your happy face meditations go for you and subscribe to my channel and I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care!
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #9: Empathy- the great healer
Hello Beautiful person! Welcome back to healing your grief 2 minutes at a time. Wow! This week, I feel like I can call it a wrap. I can call this whole video series a wrap. I’ve given you some tools and I have thousands and thousands of tools ahead of us of great ways to heal but what happened to me in the last week has been more healing to me than any of those tools.
I was invited to be a part of this dinner that was filled up with other moms without moms. It was a group of women who shared the exact same experience and are living the exact same experience that I am living now and I can not begin to tell you how healing all of that was. Just the look in their eyes, to have them understand and know they’ve been there. They understand and they know.
Empathy- who knew it could be so simple? So I encourage you to find your people. Find a group. Whether you go onto meetup.com or grieving.com or go to your local grief center of church and find a group of people who are experiencing the same loss as you. If you are here because you’ve lost your mom, you can log onto my site and I have a moms without moms site and if you’re local you can come to my group or if you are far away, you can join our mailing list. I will send you, each month, your agenda and your questionnaire but please go and find your people. Whether you are healing from the loss of a mom or a parent or a child, whatever the relationship is, go out and find your people.
If you can not find a group, build one. Build it and the people will come.
I am so excited to hear your progress down below. Please leave your comments about all of the meetings you are starting. Subscribe to my channel so you are alerted to next week’s video and have a great week. Take Care!
BEST MOTHER’S DAY GIFT EVER FOR MOMS WITHOUT MOMS
It’s Mother’s Day…again. It is that time of year I begin to avert my eyes from the card section at Target for fear I will start bawling in the middle of the aisle. So starts the tempest of emotions that rise up to create the perfect storm of excitement, love, sadness, loss and guilt as I strive for the balance of celebrating my own accomplishment as a mom and satisfying the insatiable longing for just five more minutes with my own mom. I am unsuccessful yet again at trying to squelch the desire to give her one of those very same cards that sit there taunting me.
That’s the tricky little thing about grief. It’s intense, it’s deep and it plays a game with our heads that makes us think we’re the only ones who could have ever possibly felt this gut-wrenching pain. It’s isolating and dark. I was at the tipping point of my traditional Mother’s day grief storm when a friend invited me to dinner to celebrate our moms. All of the women at this dinner were moms without moms. We were all asked to bring something that reminded us of our moms to share with the group and in an instant, we were connected. There was a healing look in the eyes of the other women as I talked. The look said, “Yep, I know. I’ve been there. It’s absolutely awful and I’m so sorry another human being has ever needed to experience this anguish.” I couldn’t believe it. After all of the books, speakers and grief groups I’ve attended, I find that empathy, from other moms who have also lost their moms, is the grief antidote that I have needed all along. It was so freeing to break out from the shame and so comforting to hear that it wasn’t only my life that spiraled out of control after that loss. Mine wasn’t the only crazy family. I wasn’t the only one who felt abandoned by relatives after her death. Amazing, glorious, healing empathy: who knew it could be so simple? Since we had all experienced this loss, no one had to be guarded. No one felt uncomfortable by talking about the fact that people die. It’s life. It happens. But no one wants to admit that it does or that, gasp, they could be affected by it.
This year, I’m giving my mom the BEST MOTHER’S DAY gift ever!!! I’ve turned that dinner group into a support circle and have created “Moms without Moms”- a support circle for women everywhere to come together and heal through empathy. www.angelbirthdays.com/momswithoutmoms. Not only will these groups share their stories and heal their hearts together but they will also take the last 15 minutes of their meeting and answer that month’s questionnaire. The biggest disappointment for all of us at that dinner table was, without question, the inability to hear our mom’s stories- her stories about our childhood, about our family, about our crazy relatives who no longer call. So, Moms without Moms is going to give that gift to our children. We are going to give our families our written story. As busy moms, most of us probably don’t make it a priority to journal or write things down if left to our own devices. Let’s face it. As soon as we stop moving, we usually pass right out. So we’re bringing in peer pressure to get the job done for us all. The last part of each meeting will be spent writing the story of our lives- 15 minutes at a time together. Each month, in addition to the sharing and support, there will be a questionnaire to be filled out and to be added to our family binder. Over time, it will become the story of our lives-our legacy to pass down to our children- in our own words.
So this Mother’s Day, take a moment. Start a group. Join a group. Give the best gift you can give to your mom, to yourself and to your children. For all of us Moms without Moms who are about to unite, enjoy your day. Celebrate yourself and take a moment to remember and love the woman who made you a great mom. Happy Mother’s Day!
GRIEF: HEALING GRIEF 2 MINUTES AT A TIME #8: “All is well” The Bible and our angels say so
Hello Beautiful Person! Welcome back to healing your grief two minutes at a time. Today is my bible new age mashup and I hope that you enjoy it as much as I have enjoyed piecing it together over the last few weeks. The theme of today is “all is well” and I know that that can feel hard to even say those words when we are in the thick of our grief because nothing really feels well during those moments. So I want to start with sharing a bible story that has been incredibly helpful for me. It is the story of the Shunammite woman that Elijah had prophesize that she would have a son and she did and at 10 that little boy died in a field. So she was pretty upset so she got on her horse and headed to Elijah to see what was going on and when she was encountered by a man, he said, “How are you?” and she said, “All is well.” And then he said, “Well, what’s going on? How is your husband?” and she said, “All is well.” And then he said,” What about your son? What’s going on with your son?” He knew something had to be amiss and she said “All is well.” It is so amazing to me that this woman, in the midst of her grief, could have such amazing faith that she could not be wavered. She just knew, all was well. God was in control and she could just let go. I found that phrase to just grow my faith exponentially for me to just sit there and say, “All is well”
And if you can’t get there with just the bible verse, I want you to take a moment to look around at your environment because your angels send you messages as well. If you happen to notice the 111 on the clock, 11:11. Our angels send us, one of the ways our angels send us messages, is through numbers. The number combination 444 actually means “All is well.” If you wake up in the middle of the night at 4:44 or if you are driving down the freeway and it says 444-XXXX call me now, that is a sign. It’s not a coincidence. It is a sign from your angel letting you know that all is well. All is well with them and all is well with you. I know that can be hard to have that moment but take that moment and if you have a moment of feeling like all is well and you’re feeling good, I want you to harness that energy, hold onto it and then I want you to send it to yourself yesterday when nothing felt well. Then, I want you to take that same “All is well” energy and send it ahead of you to yourself tomorrow or the next day, or the next day to let that person know that all is well and all is going to be well. Begin by taking care of your own heart.
All is well and all will be well. Just hang in there and believe. I can not wait to hear all of your “All is well” stories in the comments down below. Please subscribe to my channel and I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care.