The Art of the No-Guilt Apology
With Father’s Day behind us, many of us are reeling from the after effects of that day. Some are basking in the glow of a beautiful day, greatly enjoyed with their Dad, while others are feeling distant, sad or alone. That Dad bond…it’s a tricky connection. It’s our first love. It’s our first standard of a man. It’s our rule maker and first provider. It could have been a great standard set or the example of what we never want in our life ever again. With all...
Read MoreLoving Our Fathers- Blocks & All
It’s Father’s Day weekend. For some of us, we’ve been without a father for years. For others, this will be our first Father’s day without him. Either way, there is a place in our hearts that opens up for this one man on Sunday. Whether we had the storybook father or the nightmare dad, our hearts automatically open up to him on Father’s Day and it’s our job to let him in. If we close down our hearts, we close down a part of ourselves. We close down...
Read MoreGrief: Legs Up The Wall: Healing Your Grief 2 Minutes at a Time #66
There are times in our lives when things just feel upside down. As hard as we try, we can’t seem to flip it around. We find ourselves running ragged, having short fuses, keeping ourselves endlessly busy yet feeling utterly alone, sad and depressed. It doesn’t take grief to feel this way but anyone who is grieving would attest to the fact that this is what a regular day feels like when you are healing a grieving heart. I am ragged, short-fused and feeling utterly upside down this week. In...
Read MoreGrief: Healing Our Overwhelm
Overwhelm. We all know it. We all feel it, especially when we’re grieving. EVERYTHING can feel overwhelming when we’re grieving. Just when we’re keeping it all together, we spill our coffee and BOOM we’re a crumbling mess in the kitchen, crying over spilled coffee. (Which by the way is TOTALLY worth crying about!) The fact of the matter is that overwhelm can be manageable when it happens for one day, but when we are grieving, we often find ourselves running an...
Read MoreThe Pinch Hit Mom – Healing your grief 2 minutes at a time #64
All month, we have explored ways to mother ourselves and to take care of ourselves. This week, we are going to take a moment to realize and accept the idea that sometimes, we just need another set of hands to help us. All of us have moments of needing a Pinch Hit Mom. The great news is that the Pinch Hit Mom can come into our lives in a variety of ways. It can be a friend, a hired professional, a man, a relative or a stranger. The beauty of the Pinch Hit Mom is that we recognize and...
Read MoreHave you ever wondered how your thoughts can heal your heart?
As we’ve dedicated this entire month to the mother relationship, it got me thinking. What did our moms provide us that helped us the most? Sure, they cooked, cleaned, drove us around, fought our battles or let us fight our own, but what was is it, really, that they had the greatest influence over in our lives? It really came down to two things: Food and thoughts. Last week, we covered how we could begin to mother ourselves with nourishing loving food, so this week we are...
Read MoreGRIEF: Mothering Ourselves-Our First Step- Healing your grief 2 minutes at a time #62
We all have defining moments in our lives where we find that we must begin to mother ourselves. For some, it may be the first time they are sick away at college. For others, that moment may define itself when their mother leaves this earth, or their life, and she is no longer available to mother them the way their inner child needs to be nourished. But here’s the thing… No matter what age we reach, our inner child will always need nourishment and will always...
Read MoreGRIEF: Mom did her job: Healing your grief 2 minutes at a time #61
This weekend is Mother’s Day which means that for many of us, these days right now, the days leading up to Mother’s Day, are filled with a myriad of emotions. Whether we have lost our mother to physical death, illness, Alzheimer’s, an argument, a deep rooted hurt, a grudge or a simple misunderstanding, there is simply healing that needs to occur in all of our hearts. Our mothers don’t have to physically die for us to grieve them. We grieve the ideal...
Read MoreGRIEF: Your Healing Heart List: We simply cannot heal until we define what is hurting us
Hello Beautiful Person! After losing my mom, I couldn’t do any type of heart healing work for two full years. My friend continued to encourage me to go see an amazing reiki healer and I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I didn’t have enough strength. When I finally did go I realized, as always, it was at the perfect time. I couldn’t have gone a moment sooner. That was five years ago. I wish I could go back in time seven years and tell my broken heart...
Read MoreGrief Decluttering: Turning our emotional land minds into intentional honoring
Hello Beautiful Person! It’s spring! It’s the time to declutter and simplify your life. A few weeks ago, I shared our first decluttering tip on decluttering our hearts first. Until we clear away our emotional clutter, we are just simply unable to part with the physical objects around us. Once that heart clutter is cleared, it’s time to move onto our physical objects. Once we finally do start decluttering, what do you think will derail our progress the fastest?...
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