It’s Father’s Day weekend. For some of us, we’ve been without a father for years. For others, this will be our first Father’s day without him. Either way, there is a place in our hearts that opens up for this one man on Sunday. Whether we had the storybook father or the nightmare dad, our hearts automatically open up to him on Father’s Day and it’s our job to let him in. If we close down our hearts, we close down a part of ourselves. We close down to our strength, our love, and our connection to our lineage. And it may hurt to remain open. Opening up that space and holding that space for the day may flood our hearts with memories of hurt, anger or disappointment, but in processing those feelings, we begin to heal. We begin to move on and grow into the person we are meant to be.
Wayne Dyer once wrote an incredible blog on committing to an Unconditional Love experiment where he encouraged all of us to love unconditionally for a few days to see how much our life changed. He described all of us as pieces of God (whatever God means to you). In this experiment, we aren’t loving the bad things people do, we are loving the God within them. When people do hurtful things to us, it is actually caused by a block that they have in their own heart that is preventing God from shining through their heart. It is our job to recognize that block and to look over the wall they have built up for themselves because they just can’t see it for themselves. So while we don’t want to love the hurtful things people do to us, we can love the God that is in everyone and bless their blocks, in hopes that our blessings will help break down their barriers. Once we recognize the God within them, our heart begins to heal. Here is the link to that amazing article.
So, if you find yourself this Father’s Day with an opened heart to a man that has hurt you or left you, either physically or emotionally, take a moment to honor and love the God that is within him. If you can’t begin with loving the God within him, then start with just blessing his blocks. Understand that they were always his blocks to God, not yours. The hurt, the comments, the anger was a result of his blocks and his not feeling good about who he was at the time. He was the one not OK with himself. It had nothing to do with you.
So this Father’s Day, give yourself the best gift you could give yourself and him:
Give him blessings for his blocks.
Allow your open heart to connect to his open heart that exists behind that wall of blocks and watch what happens to you. You will find your own heart feels full of love, compassion and gratitude. Fathers are the other half of our bodies’ equation. We were made by two people. We are alive because of him and for that reason alone, we need to be grateful. Take a moment this weekend and connect with your Dad, either physically or just mentally. If he has passed away, he will hear you. If he has moved out of your life, he will feel your thoughts. And if you are with him, hug him and forgive him. Be the brave one and watch what happens to you. Give the best gift you can give to yourself and him. Turn all of those blocks between you two into building blocks that connect you to God, yourselves and each other. Happy Father’s Day!
What blocks did you bless today? How are you healing your heart? We look forward to supporting you this weekend!
Love and Blessings,
Erin