How can we help bring our angels into our dreams?
Have you ever wished and asked for a loved one to come and visit you in your dream only to be visited by someone else or by no one at all? We beg our loved ones to visit and then end up with nothing. It can feel incredibly disheartening, sad and frustrating. What if there was a way to improve your chances on getting your loved one to show up in your dreams? This week, we are going to talk about how our loved ones come and visit us in our dreams and how they follow a divinely organized...
Read MoreThe Journal and Burn
Here are three grief facts about me: 1) I’ve attended more grief groups than I can tally. 2) I’ve become a certified Minister of Consolation through the Archdiocese of San Francisco 3) I’ve logged more personal grief hours than I ever imagined possible for one human being. But whether I was attending the grief group, leading the grief group or walking my own private journey, this one consistent fact has remained true. We must tell our story over and over and over...
Read MoreCompassionate Listening
So often when our loved ones are grieving around us, we don’t know what to do. We want to do the right thing, say the right thing and be that person that they need, but we often just don’t know what to do. We’re taking care of that this week and it is much easier than you may realize. Be the brave one at the door. They just need someone to listen deeply and compassionately. Thich Nhat Hanh describes compassionate listening so beautifully. He...
Read MoreFive Ways Our Angels Communicate with Us
Have you ever wished you could just have five minutes to talk to your loved one who has passed away to get their input on a conflict or problem? I know I would give anything for those five minutes. I miss their direction, advice and wisdom. But since we can’t really get those five minutes, we must devise another way to talk to our loved ones. Have you ever taken a moment and asked for them to communicate with you? Have you ever asked for a sign to help give you direction...
Read MoreNo More What Ifs- Healing Grief 2 Minutes at a Time #74
The “What If” game It’s a life-destructive game, at its best. At its worst, it breaks apart our confidence, our trust and, worst of all, our faith in knowing we are ALWAYS exactly where we are meant to be. But it is just one of these sneaky little things that creep into our grieving process. It doesn’t matter if we are grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a recent onset of illness, or a life before having to care for aging parents, it finds its way into our...
Read MoreGrief: Proof we are all protected and can finally let go
It was just one of those days. I spent half the night awake wrestling with the myriad of emotions in my heart and head, trying to find peace with this new found Lyme diagnosis with my daughter. Mentally trying to organize the ridiculous amounts of information that has been dumped on top of my brain. Trying to organize. Trying to understand. Trying to find peace…and failing miserably. The daytime hours went about the same. I’d spent the entire day doing practically...
Read MoreGRIEF: Healing our isolation with our own power and vulnerability
Isolation. It’s something that happens to all of us. It doesn’t matter whether you are grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a friendship, life before an illness or caring for ailing parents. When we are in pain, we pull away. We find reason to not trust others. Maybe we push them away because we’re too exhausted from our grief to invest in a relationship with anyone else. Maybe it’s because we’re afraid they might leave us too. Maybe...
Read More10 Ways Grief Shows Up in our Life: Healing Grief 2 Minutes at a Time #71
How does grief show up in your life? Have you ever really thought about it? Do you think that some of those ongoing emotions and struggles you’ve been facing are actually uncovered grief? Grief shows up in our life way more than we realize. When we begin to recognize that grief is not limited to death and that every life change causes us grief, we can begin to heal our hearts more efficiently and effectively. By recognizing it’s grief that we’re feeling, we give ourselves...
Read MoreFear Or Courage- Which will you choose?
My daughter was just diagnosed with Lyme Disease today. After an hour long appointment with the Lyme specialist, my head dizzy with information, details and fear, I walked out to my car to find a parking ticket. I apparently did not turn my wheels in enough on the San Francisco hill to appease the patrolling officer. Seriously? It was almost comical, except that it wasn’t. It was my tipping point. I was a mess. My daughter was a mess. We were both crying and both feeling...
Read MoreGrief: Closed for Repairs. Healing Your Grief 2 Minutes at a Time #69
There are certain times in our lives when we just need to close for repairs. We are simply not able to handle friendships, relationships or outside pressures. Perhaps we can manage this exterior work peripherally for awhile but sooner or later, it will just exhaust us and deplete us until we are forced to shut down for repairs in order to do the interior work necessary to heal our hearts. This closing time is critical for our hearts. We NEED this time to nourish ourselves and heal...
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