So often when we are grieving, we are triggered by the simplest thing, at the simplest time. The smell of coffee, flowers in a store, a television commercial. When these moments hit us, we find ourselves grieving hard. It doesn’t matter if your loved one passed away 6 months ago or 20 years ago. In that moment, it hurts and it hurts bad. It’s bound to happen to every single one of us, if it hasn’t happened already.
But what should we do when this happens?
It can be so intense that we may feel inclined to wipe away our tears and pretend we’re fine, especially if it’s been awhile since our loved ones have died. This is one way to handle it. But pretending we’re fine won’t bring us much healing. It is easier for the moment, yes. But for a lifetime? No.
If we can be brave enough to let those tears out, to face that hurt, to allow that pain to penetrate our hearts for just a little bit, it will do the work that grief needs to do in our hearts and begin to release the hurt so we can begin to heal. We can start to find a new version of normal, a new way to be. It is absolutely true that this can feel scary and hard and incredibly painful. So what do we do when we get hit with emotion out of nowhere?
We take the 2 minute healing challenge.
When that moment hits you, pull out your phone or your nearest egg timer and let yourself feel all those emotions and feel it BIG for two minutes. Set the timer and let yourself go for two full minutes. You might be surprised how much healing you get done in 2 minutes. Allowing yourself these two minutes of the full expression of your grief will let you process, release, detach and heal. This two minute challenge eliminates the “I don’t have time for this right now” excuse. It eliminates watching the clock for when you need to leave. It eliminates you carrying whatever you are going to release into tomorrow.
Because if we don’t take those two minutes to truly feel that grief and allow it to process through our heart, it will just bleed into the next day and the next day and the next day until we realize that we have a lifetime of grief and little healing.
Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it’s hard. Yes, you can do it.
You can do anything for 2 minutes and facing your grief and that hurt is no different. Be brave for 2 minutes. Be sad for 2 minutes. Be with your heart for 2 minutes. It will thank you for it!
I can’t wait to hear all about your 2 minute healing challenges this week. How did it work for you? What triggered you? Where were you? We are here to support you and want to hear your story.
Sending you big love!
Love and Blessings,
Erin