We all know the big grieve. We get it. We plan for it. We expect it, even. We make space for it in our lives because we’re pretty sure we know the havoc it will wreak on our lives when it hits. We know that when something major happens, our life will never be the same.
The big grieve will turn our life up.side.down.
But what if there was something else that could take us down? Would you be ready? Would you recognize it if you saw it? Most importantly,
would you honor the space you need to heal from it?
This week, we’re going to talk about the small grieve and what it can do to our life if we don’t handle this tiny little land mind the right way. A few weeks ago, we covered the ten ways grief shows up in our life. These ten examples are just the tip of the iceberg of the ways grief shows up in our life: Relationships, friendships, illness, etc.
What if there was something more that could create life-changing grief in our lives? What if it didn’t have to be a monumental loss? What if the small minor losses of the day could end up creating a collective grief experience? It’s hard to take a moment to recognize this grief and even harder to honor the space we might NEED in order to heal that small little grieve. After all, it’s not that big of deal, right?
The problem is that if we allow all of these little grieves to add up without healing them or releasing them, they can create depression and cumulative grief in our hearts and body. What kind of small grieve am I talking about here?
Anything that pulls at your heart strings.
The day by day change of our younger version of our bodies, the change in friendships (not the end of a friendship but just the way a friendship has changed), the change in our energy or the change in our effectiveness at work or in our enjoyment of our work. This week is not about the big things. It’s about the subtle change, the small grieve that we need to recognize and give our hearts the space and time it needs to honor and heal this hurt.
I want to be very clear here though. It’s not about being depressed about our life. It’s not about focusing on all the bad stuff. It’s about awareness. It’s about understanding that what you might be feeling from these small changes or events in our life is grief and what would happen if we give ourselves the time and space we actually need to honor them. We can heal.
It’s a perspective change. It’s honoring our hearts. It’s giving ourselves the space we actually need to heal. It’s self-love.
Small grieves can also surmount while we are in the process of healing our big grieves. Everything feels more sensitive while we are grieving. If your big grieve feels just too daunting to begin to heal right now, begin with your small grieves. Use our morning ritual below to begin to heal those small grieves, and it will get the healing ball rolling throughout your body.
Our morning healing ritual
Heal those grieves every single day.
While you’re in your shower, think about those small, little grieves. Where do you feel them on your body? Do you feel them in your heart? Do you feel it in your back? Is it heavy on your shoulders? Then, envision the shower water cleansing you of these grieves as you literally, and metaphorically, wash them down the drain with your shower water. Bless them as they go as they are no longer serving you. Thank them for the strength they helped you develop and say goodbye. You will take this simple little morning ritual, your daily shower, to new heights by adding your grief cleanse to it. You will walk out feeling refreshed physically and emotionally every morning. Kinda makes you want to hop in the shower right now, huh?
Don’t let your little grieves add up to become big grieve damage to your heart. Heal them and let them go on a daily basis.
I can’t wait to hear how this ritual goes for you this week. What small grieves are you healing this week? Share with us and let us help you heal them. Perhaps someone else is struggling with the same thing.
Sending you big love!
Love and Blessings,
Erin